Moms Talk: When Is It Time To Step In?

Moms Council talk about under what circumstances they would intercede for their child who is being bullied

Each week the Mentor Patch Moms Council answers a question on parenthood posed to them by readers or another member of council.

This week's question:

A Minneapolis mom has been banned from her son's school and his bus stop for the rest of the year after confronting her a bus driver and two boys who had been picking on her son.

(Find the full story here.)

The mom said the bus driver knew about the bullying but didn't take action.

So today we're asking you to put yourself in someone else's place. If your kids were being bullied like that and no one would help, what would you do? And do you think it was right for the school to ban the mom from both the building and her son's bus stop?

Melanie Majikas:

I think it's hard to know what to do. On one hand, of course all parents want to protect their children. But it's also important to know what the school's process is for handling complaints about bullying.

I don't think she should have been banned. The school should have taken her complaint seriously and worked with the bus driver to address the issue.

Devone Lansing:

I am a firm believer in "the punishment fitting the crime." It doesn't seem to in this case.

Maybe the mom should've gone about getting results in a different way, but I completely understand her point of view.

I may have done the same thing if some mean kids were bullying my child. When ANYONE (child or no) is being mean to your child, hurting them, threatening them, whatever the case may be - the "mama bear" instinct kicks in!

I realize that we need rules in place and protocols for the safety of the other children and the school employees. However, if this mother had complained previously and nothing was being done about it, then I can't condemn her for taking matters into her own hands.

Valerie Middleton Winter October 13, 2011 at 08:56 PM
I don't think the mom should be banned from the school or the bus unless she is difficult to work with. Kids need to learn how to properly identify situations and perhaps the word bullying was used for lack of a better word. I do believe the term is way overused and not always the right description. And if she's an only parent, then who will attend conferences, who will pick the children up from school when sick or injured, who will the school contact if she has been banned. It simply doesn't make sense.


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